Earn the Right

Okay, single friends.....

I've been giving a lot of thought lately because it seems a HUGE number of my friends or associates have had failed marriages.  And although nothing can be done about that, because what is done is done, I have some advice for those young people who have not yet made the leap to get into a serious relationship and to those who are back in the dating game for a second time.  Make him EARN THE RIGHT TO BE IN YOUR LIFE.

When my husband and I were dating, he knew that I had high standards and he decided that I was worth the work it would take to meet those standards.  When he decided he wanted to be with me, he quit smoking and drinking....cold turkey.  And he was both a heavy drinker and smoker.  As our relationship moved forward, I didn't do much.  I respected him and let him know that, but he came to me.  He would wait for me to get out of class and bring ME clam chowder, mountain dew and mr Goodbar candy bars.  He would drive out to my house.  He paid for everything. 

Now, I know that to today's standards, that is very "old fashioned".  But what is wrong with that?  What is also old fashioned is a general respect that people hold for each other....it is a dying tradition that is causing havoc all throughout society, not just marital law.

Ladies, you are worth it.  You are worth having him work for your affection.  You are worth having him work for your time and appreciation.  Make him earn the right to spend time with you.  This may take time. And he may decide he doesn't want to do the work and walk out.  But wouldn't you rather know that he doesn't want you bad enough to do the work BEFORE you give him your heart, soul and life?  You deserve this!